For the last month I’ve seen nothing but Pink, Red, and Purple frilly Valentine’s Day decorations, cards, and candy all over the place. Valentine’s Day is on TV, it’s the first thing you see when you walk into any store, on Facebook, on Billboards, Newspapers, and Instagram. It’s freaking every where! If a guy completely forgets that it’s Valentine’s Day today, then he has a few screws that are loose in his head and should seriously get his head examined.
But, that’s what I really want to talk about. Is that what Valentine’s Day really has come down too? Chocolates? Champagne? Lingerie? Cards? Flowers? Jewelry? And Candy? And I know many of you have heard the saying, “Valentine’s Day is just a way for stores and companies to market their products and jack up their prices. It’s all commercialized….blah blah blah.” Yup! I’m pretty sure you’ve heard something similar to that.
My husband, Zack and I, have never celebrated Valentine’s Day. Never. Ever. We’ve been married for almost 11 years now and not once have we felt the need to make dinner reservations, buy each other unnecessary gifts, and then jump in the sack to rekindle the romance. Want to know why?
Because we don’t need a holiday to celebrate our love and our lives together. Zack and I have always taken our marriage seriously and we communicate all the time. Trust me, we have our ups and downs. What marriage doesn’t? We have had many moments over the years where things have become stagnant or stale. But, we always know those moments are only temporary and we talk. A lot! We notice all the time that when we’re in a rough patch it’s always the times that we’re really not speaking to each other enough.
As parents, we’re constantly busy with kids, house cleaning, work, and more. And trying to find time for just each other can be rather daunting and hard to come by, but that doesn’t mean I love him any less. To be honest, I love my husband more now than I did when we first got married. There have been times where we’ve asked each other, “Did we really love each other when we first got married?” Ha ha! Because seriously, when we think about it, the love that we feel for each other now is much more deep and sincere than it was 11 years ago. GOD, I love that man!!!
Zack and I are constantly finding little ways to remind each other that we still love each other. We kiss each other every day. We hug each other every day. He grabs my ass on a regular basis. Well….I like grabbing his ass too and “OH MY” we have sex every single week. To much information? Well, suck it up LADIES! If you don’t lead your man to water, he’ll find water somewhere else. I hope you get the gist here. If you’re married, than you have sex…..am I right? You’re not roommates! You’re married.
Zack and I are married and we’re a couple who love each other very much. We support each other. We communicate often. We disagree often, but we are each others best friends. We have two beautiful boys together that mean the world to us. To me…..that whole combination sounds like Valentine’s every day. We celebrate our love every day. I don’t need a special date night. I don’t need flowers or jewelry to remind me that my husband loves me. Just spending time with him is all I need. My idea of the best Valentine’s Day is sitting on the couch, cuddled up with my entire family, watching a movie marathon while eating popcorn and pizza.
I understand what Valentine’s Day may mean to some people, but to me I will never truly understand it. If anything, Valentine’s Day has turned into more of a kids holiday than an adult holiday. I love living vicariously through my children. I love helping them fill out their cute little Valentine’s Day cards for the classmates and you can see the excitement in their eyes when they know they’re going to have a sweet V-Day party in the their class.
Leave Valentine’s Day to the kids. Because if you really want Valentine’s Day to mean something…..celebrate it every day with the one you love. You don’t need one special day to tell that person you love them. Tell them every day. Make every moment count. Make every moment special. And don’t forget to kiss each other every single day.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!